We Cannot Out-Run or Out-Smart Grief
To avoid Grief, is to avoid life itself.
We exist in a world where change is inevitable; everything is temporary.
And with all change comes loss.
With all loss comes… Grief.
So, Grief too is inevitable.
Yet we rarely speak of it, get taught about it, or know what to do with it.
Grief is never just one emotion. It’s a complex cocktail of conflicting and overwhelming emotions…
And because we don’t get taught about it, and because our capitalist culture likes to undervalue emotions and deny the sacred passageway of loss in general…
We often either become consumed by Grief, or we deny it…
We push it way down into our psyches and bodies thinking it’s gone away forever.
But, it hasn’t.
Avoiding grief shows up in other places. Always.
We cannot out-run or out-smart Grief.
I don’t think I’ve ever met a client in the past 15+ years who didn’t have unresolved grief impacting on their current challenge they presented with.
The thing is Grief doesn’t just exist for the big tragedies or major experiences of heartbreak in our lives…
Grief is omnipresent.
Grief exists in the everyday, in the small; in the unseen, in the unspoken.
Everything changes, everyone changes, we constantly change…
And so we (on some level whether known to us or not) constantly grieve too.
I wish I understood the depth and breadth of Grief 20+ years ago.
I wish I had been given a frame for Grief that extended beyond 5 stages, or only associated Grief with big tragedies and losses.
I wish I had of known Grief was everywhere all of the time; and that my willingness to experience Grief would expand my capacity to experience Love. And my capacity to truly experience Life.
To experience l o v e,
is to experience
Grief.
To experience l i f e,
is to experience
Grief.
Tell me what your relationship to Grief is like…
and I will tell you what your relationship to Love and Life is like… (and where your “blocks” and self-sabotaging patterns actually come from) 😉
Grief is a grand teacher of Love and Life (when we allow it to be).
Grief is our constant loving reminder that all of this is temporary…
A reminder that one day we will no longer be here.
A reminder that one day those we love will no longer be here.
A reminder that this is it…
This life, this moment right now…
It’s all we ever truly have.
Grief is the cost of being alive.
^^^
Although it may feel like a high price to pay….
Grief doesn’t ask of us much; but what it does ask is confronting.
Grief asks us to Feel.
Grief asks us to be present to the impermanence of Life.
Grief asks us to open, when we would rather close.
Grief asks us to take this all in…
To truly Live, to truly Love.
Grief asks us not to take this for granted.
In my experience, our relationship to Grief can either stifle us slowly from the inside… or liberate us.
I now also believe our Love becomes r e v o l u t i o n a r y on this planet when we allow our relationship to Grief to become r e v o l u t i o n a r y ♥️🔥🌹
There is no coming to know and embrace your True Self, without coming to know and embrace your relationship with Grief.
“You cannot buy the revolution,
You cannot make the revolution,
You can only be the revolution.
It is in your spirit, or it is nowhere.”
~ Ursula K Le Guin
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